Respect and Resentments

Buddhism you unpack the issues of both valuing our own choices and other people's values regarding our boundaries respect in a clear pristine fashion. 

I think my takeaways are not being able to continue living people and still say this is not okay. I have tried forgiving specific actions, but they keep occurring. Now resentment has taken the place of forgiveness or having patience with people I'm supposed to love. Because I'm beginning NOT TO LOVE THEM. That's really different for me. 

The other piece is that when I forgove anyone, it feels like I've cut off a finger. Magically over time it grows back. But that finger keeps getting cut off again...each time I feel pain, but I also feel slighted. Tricked and betrayed. This piece is a little dark and complex because now I don't really forgive. I basically go numb if I have to deal with the person I supposedly forgive. I don't think I'm forgiving at all. I intentionally forget I even have any feelings for the person. I start feeling as though we were never connected at all. Like our kinship or friendship was always a one way street: their way. I always accepted that. And now I don't.

Yes. I've had to go in on a few people lately because they're too sensitive. They want to minimize issues they don't like to discuss concerning their behavior. Then, they make excuses for the way they treat me because they don't want to respect my boundaries or deal with issues in the manner or when I want to. It's not easy navigating this type of tension.

Akasha C. Kinlock I think you meant to say "they're too INsensitive."

Jeffrey Wallace Tripp actually it is sorta binary. Both. One the one, a person doesn't want to get called out on their behavior. Then, they minimize their role of responsibility or results of their actions that I dislike. One way to defend their actions; then, ignoring there's any harm being done at all. It's both being sensitive AND being insensitive that center the problems as far as I'm concerned. Thanks for examining the verbage. Broadens my issue.

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